Can you meet me halfway?

"Well Jenny, if it has to do with you, there is always a story with a good laugh involved!" exclaimed one of my friends when I shared with her my recent dating mishap.

Allow me to share- One of good friends told me a few months ago that she had found the "perfect guy" for me and she wanted he and I to meet. I said sure and that I would be looking forward to it. She was a bit cautious to bring his name up to me because she wasn't sure if I would be attracted to him because apparently I have the reputation of having "pretty high standards in the looks department"- haha. Anyway, I agreed to the set up and she was super excited. I also found out that he and I know a lot of the same people as well, which was so fun! I heard a lot of great things about him and was looking forward to meeting him. Well, I met him for dinner and had a great time. He was really funny and nice and all of that stuff. When I left, I had no clue if he was interested in getting together or anything so I just made my 50 phone calls to my friends who were waiting by their phones and shared with them about the dinner and my impression of him. About a week went by and I heard nothing from him (which I was not accustomed to based on my previous set ups). Then, about a week later he called. The setting for this was PERFECT, I was in the car with 2 girls so I didn't pick up the phone. I listened to the voice mail that he left and as soon as I heard him say his name I yelled to the girls- HE CALLED!!! We of course were soooo excited because we of course thought- why else would he be calling other than to ask me out, right?? haha. Well, I call him back with a big smile on my face and that smile quickly melts away as he begins to talk to me. He thanks me for "indulging" our mutual friends by meeting up last week but he wanted for me to know that he has no intentions to take this any further. OUCH!!! I thank him for calling and then step out of my room to see my roommate waiting expectantly for my "good news." I then proceed to tell her what he told me and she is shocked! All I could do was laugh at the whole situation.

The first thing I thought of was the previous 2 guys that I dated who I had to coax that exact conversation out of them. Those 2 guys legitimately owed me a conversation saying that they had no intentions of taking their relationship with me any further, because I did, in fact, have a relationship with them. Instead of being bold and embracing the awkwardness by having that conversation, they acted like cowards. And then we have this guy who I've met once! He actually doesn't owe me anything, yet he chose to be clear and let me know where he stood- once I had time to console my bruised ego, I actually have come to appreciate what this dude did.

So, isn't there some type of middle ground here? Who knows! All I have to say is that I am trusting the Lord to provide me with a husband so that I can have (Lord-willing) a couple of sons who I can train in the ancient art of communication skills- because that is obviously lacking in this generation!!

Now, I hope this does not come across as bitter- my love life (or lack of) has actually been the cause of many laughs in recent years and some quite catchy sayings (that will never be posted on line) and for that I am grateful. I am glad that the Lord continues to provide things that keeps my life interesting!!!!!